We Need To Talk…

We Need to TalkFour words that women tend to use when things get serious and which most men absolutely hate to hear.   But in all seriousness when a relationship or situation gets to the point where these four little words need to be used then maybe it’s time to stop, talk, hear and listen!  Now, did you notice that I used both hear and listen?  That’s because you may think they mean the same thing but they really don’t.  I can hear your words, but am I really listening to what you are saying to me.  When couples and families talk about a breakdown in communication, this is what they mean.  Everyone is talking, yelling, screaming, gesturing…but no one is actually LISTENING to what the other is saying or trying to say.  So the next time you think there might be “breakdown” in communication with your loved one(s) think about these four other words…stop, talk, hear and listen!

If you are interested in rebuilding communication skills with your loved one, contact us at MGS Counseling and Therapy Services, LLC.  We can help you reconnect.


~Shari Hines, JD, MS – MGS Therapist

Self Forgiveness

Forgiveness: Letting go of past grudges or lingering anger against a person or persons. 

Self ForgivenessThis is difficult enough to accomplish when it has to do with others, but what about having to forgive yourself?  On a daily basis we commit as much wrong against ourselves as we do others.  Yet we find it so difficult to acknowledge the injustice that we do to ourselves much less forgive ourselves.  Things like ignoring health issues, eating poorly and generally leading an unhealthy lifestyle (smoking, drinking, abusing substances).  At some point we need to look in the mirror, acknowledge the wrong, apologize and forgive ourselves.  Until we are able to do that, we are doomed to wallow in the pattern that we have worn into our lives and find senseless justifications for hurting ourselves.  Let us resolve to look more favorably upon ourselves.  Be kind and most of all, be forgiving…

If you find yourself stuck in a pattern of unforgivenss, please contact us.  We can help you find a way to forgive yourself.

~Shari Hines, JD, MS, – MGS Therapist