From a Freshman, with Love

Going into my junior year now, I wish I could have expressed what I was going through at that time to my parents. This is a letter I believe many freshmen can relate to.

FromFrom a Freshman, With Love a Freshman, With Love

Dear Mom and Dad,

I’m sorry I don’t call as often as I should. See, it’s not all fun and games over here. I am still trying to find my place; as you know, I only knew one person from high school. I’m also very stressed, as I still have no idea what to declare as my major. It’s funny, you know, how people say it does not matter what you major in undergraduate. Of course it does. At this moment, it feels as if the rest of my life will be determined based off of what that paper says I’m capable of doing. I know it’s not what the degree says but what you do with it that matters. Yet, there is so much pressure. There is so much I want to do. I just don’t know how to choose just one thing. How will I know if it’s the right decision? What if I want to change my mind again? What if they don’t let me?

If you’re out of breath just reading that, imagine how claustrophobic I’m feeling right now. I’m overwhelmed, lost, confused, and lonely. My entire world changed drastically in a matter of a year. I am in a complete new environment; I miss the beach. My best friend since 5th grade is no longer down the street, I had to start all over. I don’t know who to trust. I don’t have my car up here, so I automatically feel dependent and you know I dislike relying on others. That being said, I am also sorry I am not working right now. I know paying for school and housing is already a lot to ask for. I just don’t know how I could balance all of that right now.

I also know that if I call and ask for money, you will get upset and say that is all I call for. So I rather just not call, you know, to avoid problems. I want to hear how your day is going and I mean to call more often but I don’t know what to say on the phone. I don’t want to ruin your day because I’m upset. I know you see photographs of me on social media out with friends and having a good time. That’s only sometimes, because let’s be honest, no one is taking pictures at the library.

I guess what I am trying to say is that I don’t want you to take my absence personally. I am at a very difficult stage in my life. I am trying to figure everything out. Hopefully, I figure it out soon. I love you both and I am so grateful for this opportunity you have given me. I will work on calling more often. I will work on creating a balanced lifestyle up here with time for studying, exercise, friends, phone calls, and possibly a job. I will work and I won’t give up. Time to make you proud.

From,

Your freshman in college

 

MGS Counseling & Therapy Services, LLC is a South Florida private practice. Mrs. Wilson works with mothers dealing with postpartum and fathers who have difficulty with transitional changes after a new child. In addition Mrs. Wilson works with individuals, couples and families to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Mrs. Wilson call (754) 999-0410 or contact by email at info@mgscounseling.com

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Forgotten Beauty

Forgotten Beauty

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The topic of discussion at my house for the past few weeks has been our living room. “It’s ugly and outdated. We need to fix it”, I would tell my father. It wasn’t until a friend of mine came over and made me realize something. The moment she stepped her foot inside my apartment, she complimented our living room; “Wow. I love your living room. It’s beautiful”. Shocked and confused, I let out a chuckle and replied: “You’re joking, right? I haven’t stopped annoying my dad to change it up. I think it’s hideous”. “Val, what are you talking about? The blue curtains match the blue couch, the painting behind the couch pops because of the color contrast, and the coffee table is unreal- I’ve never seen anything like it”, she answered.

I stepped back, looked around, and analyzed everything she previously mentioned. She was right. From the medium sized palm tree in the corner, to the coffee table my father designed, and even the collection of antique pictures taken of my dad’s grandmother when she was 16. The room was truly a work of art. It was beautiful! I immediately felt bad, as I not only neglected a masterpiece but I offended my dad. This room had his personality written all over it; it was his creation.

Taking a step back!

Unfortunately, this situation happens to many of us. People become this living room. This could explain why as teenagers we treated our parents the way we did; that, and well, hormones. We get accustomed to our parents’ presence in our daily lives, that we begin avoiding them and taking them for granted. This happens in other relationships as well. We stop seeing the beauty we saw when we first met someone because with time we get acquainted to them. It is an inevitable crime that we are guilty of committing.

See, I couldn’t even describe the living room before my friend came over; I couldn’t even tell you that the curtains matched the couch, as I never realized this detail. I would simply pass by this room everyday on my way to my bedroom, without even glancing at it. I was not even sure what I wanted to change about the room, I just wanted it to look different. It took an outside perspective for me to realize how great this room was. I now appreciate it and have been reminded of the beauty. Change is not as simple as changing a living room. It is important for us to be able to recall what makes an individual special and appreciate those traits, as everyone has their own unique characteristics to offer.

Appreciation!

Forgotten Beauty, Picture, MGS Counseling

No one deserves to be forgotten and neglected like my living room and it was all because I forgot to stop and observe what it had to offer. Children share a positive outlook on the world around them because they are genuinely fascinated by their surroundings. They are experiencing and being introduced to certain things for the first time, as my friend demonstrated as she walked into my house. If we had the same perspective as children, the world would be a better place. We would demonstrate love and appreciation to everything, as we should. Life is fascinating. People are fascinating. We should never get accustomed to anything around us. Everything is different, unique, and has something to offer. Sometimes, we just need a reminder.

Thank you!

MGS Counseling & Therapy Services, LLC is a South Florida private practice. Mrs. Wilson works with mothers dealing with postpartum and fathers who have difficulty with transitional changes after a new child. In addition Mrs. Wilson works with individuals, couples and families to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Mrs. Wilson call (754) 999-0410 or contact by email at info@mgscounseling.com

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Parenting? What’s that?

Parenting? Whats That? Parenting? What’s That?

Parenting? What’s that? I can’t tell you how many times I have heard this from expecting or new parents. Grandparents that have to take over the role of mom or dad due to a change in the family structure. For some an addition to the family can be a scary thing.

So what is parenting? Where do we get the rule book or guidelines on how this is supposed to be done? Well the answer to this is simple and one many of you have heard before. There is not such book to be found. However we do have something that we never had before. We have the ability to gain access to a network of people who can provide us with insight and education on developmental stages for our children. Mothers and fathers who could share scary, funny or insightful stories in the journey of parenthood.

This network of people I am referring to can be found in our communities, families and social media support groups. We have the ability to reach a number of people, our parents could never dream up. MGS Mom’s and MGS Healing Mothers have shown such support to Mothers and Expecting Mothers along with Mothers who have lost a child. Parenting starts when we know we have support, understanding we will have ups and downs. Along with gaining understanding in ourselves and the situations we will have to encounter.

Parenting is sharing an unconditional love with a child or children who see you as their superhero. Sharing the silent moments after they have gone to sleep with some well needed quiet time. Gaining that second wind after you feel your fuel tank for energy is on E. Parenting is when you share a story in a support group and other parents can relate. Parenting is defined as so many things. We as parents can work together to make sure our children get the best example of what that can be.

So as you walk or run through this journey of parenthood. Utilize the community support you have and share support with another parent. We all have our own stories however we can all use the support.

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Till the next time.

Live, Laugh, Love

T.P.C (The Parent Counselor)

Gail Wilson is a Therapist, Life Coach and Public Speaker in South Florida. Mrs. Wilson works with mothers dealing with postpartum and fathers who have difficulty with transitional changes after a new child. In addition Mrs. Wilson works with individuals, couples and families to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Mrs. Wilson call (754) 999-0410 or contact by email at Gail@mgscounseling.com

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Decide Your Impact

Decide Your…
Decide Your Impact

 

 

 

 

The second I walked into the hospital room, Jaime, my great-grandfather’s brother, greeted me with bright blue eyes that I instantly knew belonged to a man with a beautiful soul. He then grabbed my hand with the last bit of energy he had and flashed a genuine smile, as if we were life long friends. Before this, the last time I saw Jaime and his wife was when I five years old, so my memory of them was faint. That being said, his wife Beatriz, also greeted me with an unforgettable energy. What a beautiful couple, I thought to myself.

A few days later we found ourselves gathered together again, only this time, in a funeral home; unfortunately, Jaime passed away. This was the first funeral I attended and I was not sure what to expect. The room where the funeral service was held was filled with around 50 people all who traveled across the country, even the world, to attend. It was amazing to see how loved Jaime was. My father informed me that amongst the crowd of attendees were Jaime’s friends from high school. A group of over 9 friends from a high school in Colombia managed to stay in contact throughout their whole lives; amazing, but unfortunately a rare scenario now-a-days.

In televisions surrounding the room, a montage of photographs was displayed. The way Jaime and Beatriz would look at each other in the picture slideshow really impacted me. Being married for 30 years, their wedding pictures and photographs with their children reflected the undeniable chemistry these two shared. Beatriz had the same glare in her eye at the hospital a few days ago.

After reflecting on this day at the funeral, I felt the need to share a reminder with whoever is reading this. Life flashes before your eyes; one day you’re 16 in a tree-house with your best friends and the next you wake up two years closer to graduating college (still unbelievable). Would you not want to live a life surrounded by people who sincerely love you?  My advice to you is to stop taking life so seriously. Appreciate the people in your life. Call your parents, they’ve only dedicated everyday of their lives since you’ve been born for you. Reach out to old friends; with today’s technological advances, we have no excuse to lose contact. Laugh, fall in love, travel, and learn a new language–experience. To live is to explore situations you have never been exposed to before.

When was the last time you made a new friend? There are 7.4 billion people on this planet. I don’t understand why people are so bitter towards strangers they have never met. The other day I met a unique individual. My friends were hesitant to speak to him as he randomly approached our group at a drum circle by himself. It was odd, as people don’t often do that, but I welcomed him and initiated conversation. He turned out to be an artist and showed me some pictures of his work. He also shared his astrological knowledge on what was occurring with the moon that night, but I won’t get into that. What a fascinating person. These are the type of people everyone remembers. Go meet people and share your story. Hear other’s stories. Every single person has something to share. Every single one of these people has a past, dreams, and opinions. What are you waiting for? Go hear them. These views on life will not be the same as yours, as we are all different, but that’s the beauty of it. I call them, characters. We are all characters and we all have something to offer this world. We play a role more significant than we recognize. Unfortunately, the human race has developed into a consumerist culture. The Rolex on someone’s wrist is being valued much higher than a relationship. The change starts with you. Go and value people.

I honor Jaime Verano for having over 50 people at his funeral. The moment I met him at the hospital I understood why my dad was so fond of him; he was sincerely interested in everyone he met. He treated them as if he had known them for years, with respect and love. Maybe if everyone portrayed these qualities the world would overall be a better place.  Perhaps then, everyone would have over 50 people attend their funeral. We are here, on this world, to evolve. Life is a beautiful opportunity we have been given. Honor it and honor the ones sharing it with you. From the stranger who worked the register at your local market and made you smile from how positive she was at 8 in the morning. To that lovely someone who cut you off on the road, portray unconditional positive regard. Leave an impact that will hopefully have someone saying what I had to say about Jaime (after only knowing him for an hour), about you. Live your life demonstrating compassion.

 

MGS Counseling & Therapy Services, LLC is a South Florida private practice. Mrs. Wilson works with mothers dealing with postpartum and fathers who have difficulty with transitional changes after a new child. In addition Mrs. Wilson works with individuals, couples and families to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Mrs. Wilson call (754) 999-0410 or contact by email at info@mgscounseling.com

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