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The second I walked into the hospital room, Jaime, my great-grandfather’s brother, greeted me with bright blue eyes that I instantly knew belonged to a man with a beautiful soul. He then grabbed my hand with the last bit of energy he had and flashed a genuine smile, as if we were life long friends. Before this, the last time I saw Jaime and his wife was when I five years old, so my memory of them was faint. That being said, his wife Beatriz, also greeted me with an unforgettable energy. What a beautiful couple, I thought to myself.

A few days later we found ourselves gathered together again, only this time, in a funeral home; unfortunately, Jaime passed away. This was the first funeral I attended and I was not sure what to expect. The room where the funeral service was held was filled with around 50 people all who traveled across the country, even the world, to attend. It was amazing to see how loved Jaime was. My father informed me that amongst the crowd of attendees were Jaime’s friends from high school. A group of over 9 friends from a high school in Colombia managed to stay in contact throughout their whole lives; amazing, but unfortunately a rare scenario now-a-days.

In televisions surrounding the room, a montage of photographs was displayed. The way Jaime and Beatriz would look at each other in the picture slideshow really impacted me. Being married for 30 years, their wedding pictures and photographs with their children reflected the undeniable chemistry these two shared. Beatriz had the same glare in her eye at the hospital a few days ago.

After reflecting on this day at the funeral, I felt the need to share a reminder with whoever is reading this. Life flashes before your eyes; one day you’re 16 in a tree-house with your best friends and the next you wake up two years closer to graduating college (still unbelievable). Would you not want to live a life surrounded by people who sincerely love you?  My advice to you is to stop taking life so seriously. Appreciate the people in your life. Call your parents, they’ve only dedicated everyday of their lives since you’ve been born for you. Reach out to old friends; with today’s technological advances, we have no excuse to lose contact. Laugh, fall in love, travel, and learn a new language–experience. To live is to explore situations you have never been exposed to before.

When was the last time you made a new friend? There are 7.4 billion people on this planet. I don’t understand why people are so bitter towards strangers they have never met. The other day I met a unique individual. My friends were hesitant to speak to him as he randomly approached our group at a drum circle by himself. It was odd, as people don’t often do that, but I welcomed him and initiated conversation. He turned out to be an artist and showed me some pictures of his work. He also shared his astrological knowledge on what was occurring with the moon that night, but I won’t get into that. What a fascinating person. These are the type of people everyone remembers. Go meet people and share your story. Hear other’s stories. Every single person has something to share. Every single one of these people has a past, dreams, and opinions. What are you waiting for? Go hear them. These views on life will not be the same as yours, as we are all different, but that’s the beauty of it. I call them, characters. We are all characters and we all have something to offer this world. We play a role more significant than we recognize. Unfortunately, the human race has developed into a consumerist culture. The Rolex on someone’s wrist is being valued much higher than a relationship. The change starts with you. Go and value people.

I honor Jaime Verano for having over 50 people at his funeral. The moment I met him at the hospital I understood why my dad was so fond of him; he was sincerely interested in everyone he met. He treated them as if he had known them for years, with respect and love. Maybe if everyone portrayed these qualities the world would overall be a better place.  Perhaps then, everyone would have over 50 people attend their funeral. We are here, on this world, to evolve. Life is a beautiful opportunity we have been given. Honor it and honor the ones sharing it with you. From the stranger who worked the register at your local market and made you smile from how positive she was at 8 in the morning. To that lovely someone who cut you off on the road, portray unconditional positive regard. Leave an impact that will hopefully have someone saying what I had to say about Jaime (after only knowing him for an hour), about you. Live your life demonstrating compassion.

 

MGS Counseling & Therapy Services, LLC is a South Florida private practice. Mrs. Wilson works with mothers dealing with postpartum and fathers who have difficulty with transitional changes after a new child. In addition Mrs. Wilson works with individuals, couples and families to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Mrs. Wilson call (754) 999-0410 or contact by email at info@mgscounseling.com

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Effective Communication

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Communication is undoubtedly the foundation of all relationships; without it, there is no hope for a successful and healthy future with someone. Pretty extreme, right? Well, whether this statement is referring to a romantic relationship or to one with a friend or parent, it is crucial to begin to exercise and practice this. So, what is communication? Communication is the way to avoid or fix problems, as it is the pathway to understanding someone’s perspective. I have seen a lack in communication in my generation. Maybe it’s because of social media, hiding behind a screen we feel more inclined to “tweet” out about feelings instead of talking them out.

One thing is for sure, however, I have noticed a trend. I’ve seen many people simply disregard the problem, keep their pride high, act unbothered, and move on. I am guilty of this, as well. Why is this an issue? It’s quite simple- when we speak our minds, we are able to address problems and work from there. If these issues are never brushed upon, they will not only stay, but will eventually develop into more serious complications. “Ok, so I just blurt out how I feel when something upsets me, right?”, wrong. There is a method to approaching communicating the “right way” in order for it to be successful.

  • Step 1: Reflect. Try to understand why you feel a certain way. What upset you? How can this be avoided in the future? More importantly, put yourself in the other person’s shoes. How does the other person feel about the matter? Why are they acting a certain way? This tends to be the most difficult part, as most of the time people are blinded to their own mistakes so tend to blame everything on the other person. Put yourself in their position and try to see why there is a miscommunication in the first place. Remember that you can’t change a person, you can only help them understand how you feel and work from there.
  • Step 2: Make a list. Two of my best friends have taught me to make lists before facing a confrontation. The reason being that once you start addressing how you feel, one tends to mention irrelevant past scenarios which only leads to more problems as one speaks with resent about things that can not be changed. The list should state: that you understand how the other person feels, how you feel, why you feel that way, and what you suggest the solution should be. Keep it short and simple.
  • Step 3: The talk. Remember the purpose of this conversation- you are trying to find solutions. Speak with respect and give them the time they hopefully gave you to speak. The person will admire you for taking initiative in mentioning the elephant in the room.

I have yet to meet a mind reader. If you want something or feel a certain way, you have to let the other person know. Without communicating, nothing will get solved. If talking things out doesn’t work, at least you tried. In that case, take mental notes on how the person dealt with the confrontation, as it will help you in the future with that relationship and others. Staying quiet, however, is not the way to move forward with someone, as this is quite detrimental. If you really can not build up the courage to speak face-to-face, write a handwritten letter; those are always appreciated. Whatever you do, communicate.

 

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Gail Wilson is a Therapist, Life Coach and Public Speaker in South Florida. Mrs. Wilson works with mothers dealing with postpartum and fathers who have difficulty with transitional changes after a new child. In addition Mrs. Wilson works with individuals, couples and families to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Mrs. Wilson call (754) 999-0410 or contact by email at Gail@mgscounseling.com

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My Best Friend!

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It’s unbelievable to think that as an adult I am still redefining what a best friend will look like. Over the years I have held to an idea that my best friend is the person I have grown up with over a number of years. Shared countless secrets and desires I want to achieve in my life. That person who will always have my back even in the stickiest situations. Someone who could understand me even if I don’t say a word. In the times of heartbreak and unhappiness they could motivate me and make me laugh. All this in one person that can totally get me.

All those things are important and needed. However I have realized that it’s not totally possible to find in one person. I have found that this is something that I have found in a few people. These people have dome all the above and much, much more. They have given me a who new outlook on how I care for someone and appreciate the good and bad times. Provided me with the opportunity to address characteristics in myself that have not always been the most received by others.

As I continue to grow and take note to those around me and individuals who state they care about me but present a different action. I have realized that these friends are more than best friends they are lifelong loves. I truly believe that these loves are in it for more than what they can receive from me. They care for me for me, they love me for me. All my goofy corks and intellectual thoughts. They have taken the time to see the person many may take for granted.

They appreciate the women I have grown to be. The wife I have taken great pride in being. The Christian I am proud to say I am without hesitation. The mother to my beautiful twins that bring me great pride and frustration at times. The pet owner to the best animals I have ever had over the years. The achieved owner of her private practice as a therapist. The fantastic daughter, sister, auntie, niece, cousin and in-law.

These wonderful best friends that I will truly love and care about till the end of time are my beautiful family.  My husband that inspires me to achieve all I want to do in life. He motivates me to never give up on my dreams and gain the heist of the high. My best friend that will support me financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually. The best friends that I never knew I could love so much, my twin boys. The two men in my life I never knew I could love so much. The idea that they are not next to me just make me feel like I have lost my best friend. Taking pride in the idea that they love me even when I am having a bad day. They would come over and rub my back and fill my face with lovable kisses.

So when I am asked who are my best friends? First and foremost always my husband and second would be my twin mini best friends. I truly enjoy what I have been blessed with. The ups and the downs (and I am not perfect downs happen. However how you move past them that make the difference for me) the joys and the pains. I don’t take my life for granted and my best friends remind me every day how blessed I truly am.

Thank you for letting me tell you about my best friends. I would love to hear about your best friend(s). So send me your story about your best friend and you just may see it in our next newsletter and get entered into a drawing for a free visa gift card. Send me your story today at info@mgscounseling.com. I look forward to seeing your great stories and letting you know who wins this great drawing.

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Till the next time.

Live, Laugh, Love

T.P.C (The Parent Counselor)

Gail Wilson is a Therapist, Life Coach and Public Speaker in South Florida. Mrs. Wilson works with mothers dealing with postpartum and fathers who have difficulty with transitional changes after a new child. In addition Mrs. Wilson works with individuals, couples and families to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Mrs. Wilson call (754) 999-0410 or contact by email at Gail@mgscounseling.com

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