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Parenting? What’s that?

Parenting? Whats That? Parenting? What’s That?

Parenting? What’s that? I can’t tell you how many times I have heard this from expecting or new parents. Grandparents that have to take over the role of mom or dad due to a change in the family structure. For some an addition to the family can be a scary thing.

So what is parenting? Where do we get the rule book or guidelines on how this is supposed to be done? Well the answer to this is simple and one many of you have heard before. There is not such book to be found. However we do have something that we never had before. We have the ability to gain access to a network of people who can provide us with insight and education on developmental stages for our children. Mothers and fathers who could share scary, funny or insightful stories in the journey of parenthood.

This network of people I am referring to can be found in our communities, families and social media support groups. We have the ability to reach a number of people, our parents could never dream up. MGS Mom’s and MGS Healing Mothers have shown such support to Mothers and Expecting Mothers along with Mothers who have lost a child. Parenting starts when we know we have support, understanding we will have ups and downs. Along with gaining understanding in ourselves and the situations we will have to encounter.

Parenting is sharing an unconditional love with a child or children who see you as their superhero. Sharing the silent moments after they have gone to sleep with some well needed quiet time. Gaining that second wind after you feel your fuel tank for energy is on E. Parenting is when you share a story in a support group and other parents can relate. Parenting is defined as so many things. We as parents can work together to make sure our children get the best example of what that can be.

So as you walk or run through this journey of parenthood. Utilize the community support you have and share support with another parent. We all have our own stories however we can all use the support.

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Till the next time.

Live, Laugh, Love

T.P.C (The Parent Counselor)

Gail Wilson is a Therapist, Life Coach and Public Speaker in South Florida. Mrs. Wilson works with mothers dealing with postpartum and fathers who have difficulty with transitional changes after a new child. In addition Mrs. Wilson works with individuals, couples and families to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Mrs. Wilson call (754) 999-0410 or contact by email at Gail@mgscounseling.com

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Effective Communication

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Communication is undoubtedly the foundation of all relationships; without it, there is no hope for a successful and healthy future with someone. Pretty extreme, right? Well, whether this statement is referring to a romantic relationship or to one with a friend or parent, it is crucial to begin to exercise and practice this. So, what is communication? Communication is the way to avoid or fix problems, as it is the pathway to understanding someone’s perspective. I have seen a lack in communication in my generation. Maybe it’s because of social media, hiding behind a screen we feel more inclined to “tweet” out about feelings instead of talking them out.

One thing is for sure, however, I have noticed a trend. I’ve seen many people simply disregard the problem, keep their pride high, act unbothered, and move on. I am guilty of this, as well. Why is this an issue? It’s quite simple- when we speak our minds, we are able to address problems and work from there. If these issues are never brushed upon, they will not only stay, but will eventually develop into more serious complications. “Ok, so I just blurt out how I feel when something upsets me, right?”, wrong. There is a method to approaching communicating the “right way” in order for it to be successful.

  • Step 1: Reflect. Try to understand why you feel a certain way. What upset you? How can this be avoided in the future? More importantly, put yourself in the other person’s shoes. How does the other person feel about the matter? Why are they acting a certain way? This tends to be the most difficult part, as most of the time people are blinded to their own mistakes so tend to blame everything on the other person. Put yourself in their position and try to see why there is a miscommunication in the first place. Remember that you can’t change a person, you can only help them understand how you feel and work from there.
  • Step 2: Make a list. Two of my best friends have taught me to make lists before facing a confrontation. The reason being that once you start addressing how you feel, one tends to mention irrelevant past scenarios which only leads to more problems as one speaks with resent about things that can not be changed. The list should state: that you understand how the other person feels, how you feel, why you feel that way, and what you suggest the solution should be. Keep it short and simple.
  • Step 3: The talk. Remember the purpose of this conversation- you are trying to find solutions. Speak with respect and give them the time they hopefully gave you to speak. The person will admire you for taking initiative in mentioning the elephant in the room.

I have yet to meet a mind reader. If you want something or feel a certain way, you have to let the other person know. Without communicating, nothing will get solved. If talking things out doesn’t work, at least you tried. In that case, take mental notes on how the person dealt with the confrontation, as it will help you in the future with that relationship and others. Staying quiet, however, is not the way to move forward with someone, as this is quite detrimental. If you really can not build up the courage to speak face-to-face, write a handwritten letter; those are always appreciated. Whatever you do, communicate.

 

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Gail Wilson is a Therapist, Life Coach and Public Speaker in South Florida. Mrs. Wilson works with mothers dealing with postpartum and fathers who have difficulty with transitional changes after a new child. In addition Mrs. Wilson works with individuals, couples and families to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Mrs. Wilson call (754) 999-0410 or contact by email at Gail@mgscounseling.com

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My Best Friend!

Best Friends, Therapy, MGS Counseling, MGS, Therapist, Mom, Twins, RelationshipMy Best Friend!

 

It’s unbelievable to think that as an adult I am still redefining what a best friend will look like. Over the years I have held to an idea that my best friend is the person I have grown up with over a number of years. Shared countless secrets and desires I want to achieve in my life. That person who will always have my back even in the stickiest situations. Someone who could understand me even if I don’t say a word. In the times of heartbreak and unhappiness they could motivate me and make me laugh. All this in one person that can totally get me.

All those things are important and needed. However I have realized that it’s not totally possible to find in one person. I have found that this is something that I have found in a few people. These people have dome all the above and much, much more. They have given me a who new outlook on how I care for someone and appreciate the good and bad times. Provided me with the opportunity to address characteristics in myself that have not always been the most received by others.

As I continue to grow and take note to those around me and individuals who state they care about me but present a different action. I have realized that these friends are more than best friends they are lifelong loves. I truly believe that these loves are in it for more than what they can receive from me. They care for me for me, they love me for me. All my goofy corks and intellectual thoughts. They have taken the time to see the person many may take for granted.

They appreciate the women I have grown to be. The wife I have taken great pride in being. The Christian I am proud to say I am without hesitation. The mother to my beautiful twins that bring me great pride and frustration at times. The pet owner to the best animals I have ever had over the years. The achieved owner of her private practice as a therapist. The fantastic daughter, sister, auntie, niece, cousin and in-law.

These wonderful best friends that I will truly love and care about till the end of time are my beautiful family.  My husband that inspires me to achieve all I want to do in life. He motivates me to never give up on my dreams and gain the heist of the high. My best friend that will support me financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually. The best friends that I never knew I could love so much, my twin boys. The two men in my life I never knew I could love so much. The idea that they are not next to me just make me feel like I have lost my best friend. Taking pride in the idea that they love me even when I am having a bad day. They would come over and rub my back and fill my face with lovable kisses.

So when I am asked who are my best friends? First and foremost always my husband and second would be my twin mini best friends. I truly enjoy what I have been blessed with. The ups and the downs (and I am not perfect downs happen. However how you move past them that make the difference for me) the joys and the pains. I don’t take my life for granted and my best friends remind me every day how blessed I truly am.

Thank you for letting me tell you about my best friends. I would love to hear about your best friend(s). So send me your story about your best friend and you just may see it in our next newsletter and get entered into a drawing for a free visa gift card. Send me your story today at info@mgscounseling.com. I look forward to seeing your great stories and letting you know who wins this great drawing.

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Till the next time.

Live, Laugh, Love

T.P.C (The Parent Counselor)

Gail Wilson is a Therapist, Life Coach and Public Speaker in South Florida. Mrs. Wilson works with mothers dealing with postpartum and fathers who have difficulty with transitional changes after a new child. In addition Mrs. Wilson works with individuals, couples and families to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Mrs. Wilson call (754) 999-0410 or contact by email at Gail@mgscounseling.com

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