How can you tell if you are in a toxic relationship? Do you know the signs and behaviors you should be aware of? Some of these behaviors are commonplace and are taken for granted as normal in a relationship. To find out more about the state of your relationship follow this link… http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/liking-the-child-you-love/201412/is-your-relationship-toxic
When two people dance and both try to lead, their movement seems awkward; usually stepping on each other’s toes. Their movement will not flow with the music; which is uncomfortable. In order to move with the music, one of them must lead the dance. The one leading can give a tender cue by pressing lightly on the back as he gently guides his partner in the right direction. When this happens, they become one with poise moving in the same direction as the dance takes surrender. In most dancing, the man is the one leading; however, in a marriage the husband and wife can take turns leading their dances of life.
The message here is that the “Marriage Dancing” is about trust. The husband will guide and lead his wife and family in the right direction. The wife must trust that the husband will lead them and trust that he will not let them fall.
Be Impeccable with your words; Don’t take anything personally; Don’t make assumptions, and Always do your best. Don Miguel Ruiz
~ Marie Osuna, MS, MGS Therapist
Four words that women tend to use when things get serious and which most men absolutely hate to hear. But in all seriousness when a relationship or situation gets to the point where these four little words need to be used then maybe it’s time to stop, talk, hear and listen! Now, did you notice that I used both hear and listen? That’s because you may think they mean the same thing but they really don’t. I can hear your words, but am I really listening to what you are saying to me. When couples and families talk about a breakdown in communication, this is what they mean. Everyone is talking, yelling, screaming, gesturing…but no one is actually LISTENING to what the other is saying or trying to say. So the next time you think there might be “breakdown” in communication with your loved one(s) think about these four other words…stop, talk, hear and listen!
If you are interested in rebuilding communication skills with your loved one, contact us at MGS Counseling and Therapy Services, LLC. We can help you reconnect.
~Shari Hines, JD, MS – MGS Therapist