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Parenting? What’s that?

Parenting? Whats That? Parenting? What’s That?

Parenting? What’s that? I can’t tell you how many times I have heard this from expecting or new parents. Grandparents that have to take over the role of mom or dad due to a change in the family structure. For some an addition to the family can be a scary thing.

So what is parenting? Where do we get the rule book or guidelines on how this is supposed to be done? Well the answer to this is simple and one many of you have heard before. There is not such book to be found. However we do have something that we never had before. We have the ability to gain access to a network of people who can provide us with insight and education on developmental stages for our children. Mothers and fathers who could share scary, funny or insightful stories in the journey of parenthood.

This network of people I am referring to can be found in our communities, families and social media support groups. We have the ability to reach a number of people, our parents could never dream up. MGS Mom’s and MGS Healing Mothers have shown such support to Mothers and Expecting Mothers along with Mothers who have lost a child. Parenting starts when we know we have support, understanding we will have ups and downs. Along with gaining understanding in ourselves and the situations we will have to encounter.

Parenting is sharing an unconditional love with a child or children who see you as their superhero. Sharing the silent moments after they have gone to sleep with some well needed quiet time. Gaining that second wind after you feel your fuel tank for energy is on E. Parenting is when you share a story in a support group and other parents can relate. Parenting is defined as so many things. We as parents can work together to make sure our children get the best example of what that can be.

So as you walk or run through this journey of parenthood. Utilize the community support you have and share support with another parent. We all have our own stories however we can all use the support.

If you have questions or comments follow us on Facebook (Link provided below) and share your thoughts.

Till the next time.

Live, Laugh, Love

T.P.C (The Parent Counselor)

Gail Wilson is a Therapist, Life Coach and Public Speaker in South Florida. Mrs. Wilson works with mothers dealing with postpartum and fathers who have difficulty with transitional changes after a new child. In addition Mrs. Wilson works with individuals, couples and families to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Mrs. Wilson call (754) 999-0410 or contact by email at Gail@mgscounseling.com

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My Best Friend!

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It’s unbelievable to think that as an adult I am still redefining what a best friend will look like. Over the years I have held to an idea that my best friend is the person I have grown up with over a number of years. Shared countless secrets and desires I want to achieve in my life. That person who will always have my back even in the stickiest situations. Someone who could understand me even if I don’t say a word. In the times of heartbreak and unhappiness they could motivate me and make me laugh. All this in one person that can totally get me.

All those things are important and needed. However I have realized that it’s not totally possible to find in one person. I have found that this is something that I have found in a few people. These people have dome all the above and much, much more. They have given me a who new outlook on how I care for someone and appreciate the good and bad times. Provided me with the opportunity to address characteristics in myself that have not always been the most received by others.

As I continue to grow and take note to those around me and individuals who state they care about me but present a different action. I have realized that these friends are more than best friends they are lifelong loves. I truly believe that these loves are in it for more than what they can receive from me. They care for me for me, they love me for me. All my goofy corks and intellectual thoughts. They have taken the time to see the person many may take for granted.

They appreciate the women I have grown to be. The wife I have taken great pride in being. The Christian I am proud to say I am without hesitation. The mother to my beautiful twins that bring me great pride and frustration at times. The pet owner to the best animals I have ever had over the years. The achieved owner of her private practice as a therapist. The fantastic daughter, sister, auntie, niece, cousin and in-law.

These wonderful best friends that I will truly love and care about till the end of time are my beautiful family.  My husband that inspires me to achieve all I want to do in life. He motivates me to never give up on my dreams and gain the heist of the high. My best friend that will support me financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually. The best friends that I never knew I could love so much, my twin boys. The two men in my life I never knew I could love so much. The idea that they are not next to me just make me feel like I have lost my best friend. Taking pride in the idea that they love me even when I am having a bad day. They would come over and rub my back and fill my face with lovable kisses.

So when I am asked who are my best friends? First and foremost always my husband and second would be my twin mini best friends. I truly enjoy what I have been blessed with. The ups and the downs (and I am not perfect downs happen. However how you move past them that make the difference for me) the joys and the pains. I don’t take my life for granted and my best friends remind me every day how blessed I truly am.

Thank you for letting me tell you about my best friends. I would love to hear about your best friend(s). So send me your story about your best friend and you just may see it in our next newsletter and get entered into a drawing for a free visa gift card. Send me your story today at info@mgscounseling.com. I look forward to seeing your great stories and letting you know who wins this great drawing.

If you have questions or comments follow us on Facebook (Link provided below) and share your thoughts.

Till the next time.

Live, Laugh, Love

T.P.C (The Parent Counselor)

Gail Wilson is a Therapist, Life Coach and Public Speaker in South Florida. Mrs. Wilson works with mothers dealing with postpartum and fathers who have difficulty with transitional changes after a new child. In addition Mrs. Wilson works with individuals, couples and families to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Mrs. Wilson call (754) 999-0410 or contact by email at Gail@mgscounseling.com

https://www.facebook.com/MGS-Counseling-and-Therapy-Services-LLC-217157051780161/

My Name is More Than Mom!

Therapist, MGS Mom, group, Mom group, Individual therapy, couples therapy, family therapy, etherapyMy Name is More Than MOM!

As always we had another great MGS Mom group. This week’s topic was “My Name is More Than Mom”. Some of the moms have talked about losing themselves in the name mom. When asked what they do, they would answer I’m a stay at home mom. When asked about what interest they have it would be kid related. Every conversation would go back to the topic of kids and mom related conversations. How they have lost friends who can’t relate to the life of being a mom.

This topic has been in the air for some time now and many do not know how to verbalize how they feel without it going back to motherhood. Which then makes them feel guilty about bringing it up because that the exact problem.

Well it’s important that you want to take pride in all that you do and want to share in your achievements. As long as we remember that we are more than one defining thing in our lives. As we all spoke it was funny to see prior to kinds each lady could share how she defined herself differently. The different areas that defined them as a woman, wife, sister, daughter, professional and etc. Yet everything changed once children came in the picture.

So as a group we came up with some tools to assist everyone in remembering and maintaining the person they want to see all the time.

  1. Journaling- this is to help get out emotions that could bring confusion. This can help get clarity in different areas they get caught up in everyday life.
  2. Date Night- Having a night they take themselves on a date and reconnect with the woman inside.
  3. Achievements- Acknowledging achievements that happen that are not just kid related.
  4. Support- Talking with your significant other about how they could assist you so everything is not just on you. (Ex. Chores, conferences, sport activities etc.) Many of my moms are the ones who participated in all the activities which make them in mom mindset all the time.
  5. Name- Having other people in your close circle address you first and not your children. Also calling you by your name and not saying “So mom how are the kids doing” or “Mom would you like the baby to have one”. Each woman had a name before having the name mom

Each lady intends to continue to amend this list and create positive change for themselves. Mom is just a small part to the bigger picture of life. I look forward to continuing this topic and many more as we look forward to next week group.

If you have questions or comments follow us on Facebook (Link provided below) and share your thoughts. Or join our great MGS Mom group as we journey towards positive change.

Till the next time.

Live, Laugh, Love

T.P.C (The Parent Counselor)

Gail Wilson is a Therapist, Life Coach and Public Speaker in South Florida. Mrs. Wilson works with mothers dealing with postpartum and fathers who have difficulty with transitional changes after a new child. In addition Mrs. Wilson works with individuals, couples and families to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Mrs. Wilson call (754) 999-0410 or contact by email at Gail@mgscounseling.com

https://www.facebook.com/MGS-Counseling-and-Therapy-Services-LLC-217157051780161/

Start/End

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I’m going to talk a little about the importance of having a start and end time when it pertains to your job. Now for many of my mom’s I’m sure you are saying, what’s that? Well let me explain myself a little more. Typically I’ve gotten up gone to work and started my work day then I take my allotted breaks and then I’ll clock out for the day. I would complain about how hard it is to get up in the morning. Then about the stressors throughout the day. Lastly why I couldn’t leave early so I can just go home and relax and get something to eat for dinner.

Well where my start or end time when I’m a stay at home mom/parent? Who is requiring me to take a scheduled break? When do I get to leave my work where it is so I can go home and rest? The answer to all of the above questions are you don’t. Now this is not because you can’t, it’s because most stay at home moms/parents don’t even know what this looks like.

For myself it started with the understanding that I cannot “ALWAYS” be available. This means always being the one to address a situation between my kids. Having to change every stinky dipper. Giving up power and allowing another capable human being be the partner and parent I know them to be in this world of parenthood. Many moms get in this I can do it all let me save the world mindset. However they forget to take care of themselves in order to take care of those they love.

I myself didn’t even realize when I feel into that cycle of “Superwoman” and had to take a step back before I got burnt out. So I gave myself a start and end time to my day. Scheduled breaks and scheduled vacation time, I even threw in some sick days. What that entailed was letting my husband know when I needed him to take over. When to elicit help from other family members and friends and going into my office to work.

Now I know this is not the case for everyone. However everyone can still set time for self and that is what this really is about. Taking a step back and treating yourself as if you are in a courtship. Find the person you once knew and want to continue to know and date them. Find needed time to get to know yourself. So I know in the mornings I like to take some time to pray and meditate on what I need to get done in my day. I set my alarm to get up before the average time I know my kids would get up. Then I incorporate activities to keep them active so I can take my breaks at my desired time. Next I allow myself not to worry about what I didn’t do and how tired my husband may be from work. When he tells me “do you want to go out and have some time to yourself?” He wouldn’t ask if he was worn out and I shouldn’t neglect myself by not taking it.

For my single parents I understand this may seem difficult to de especially if you have young kids. However your alone time can come after the kids are sleeping or when you obtain a babysitter. It’s more than just going and doing something fun for yourself. It’s allowing yourself to see that you care about your personal wellbeing.

So moms find your time to give yourself a start and end to the role of “Parent” and a start and end to the role of “Self” If you do not see the importance in your wellbeing who else will?

If you have questions or comments follow us on Facebook (Link provided below) and share your thoughts.

Till the next time.

Live, Laugh, Love

T.P.C (The Parent Counselor)

Gail Wilson is a Therapist, Life Coach and Public Speaker in South Florida. Mrs. Wilson works with mothers dealing with postpartum and fathers who have difficulty with transitional changes after a new child. In addition Mrs. Wilson works with individuals, couples and families to find their inner strength and resolve interpersonal and relational conflicts. To schedule an appointment with Mrs. Wilson call (754) 999-0410 or contact by email at Gail@mgscounseling.com

https://www.facebook.com/MGS-Counseling-and-Therapy-Services-LLC-217157051780161/